From a friend for further contemplation
I just had a thought. Why do we find it so hard to say we don't like people? So often, it seems like we feel we have to have justification for not getting along with someone else. We decide they're a "drama queen," "passive aggressive," "narcissistic," "fill in the blank," therefore we (and by extension others) should be justified for not liking them because they're a Bad Person.
Wouldn't it be easier to simply say, "Yeah, X. We don't mesh," and move on? What weird masochistic streak makes us get to the point where we have to be supremely irritated and/or angry with someone all the time before we're ready to admit that, perhaps, our personalities just don't cohere? And I do say us because I'm as guilty of this as anyone else.
It's interesting how I can stand back and look at interpersonal relationship problems now with the realization that 99% of them aren't personal, they're personality. If that makes sense. I couldn't see that before.
Wouldn't it be easier to simply say, "Yeah, X. We don't mesh," and move on? What weird masochistic streak makes us get to the point where we have to be supremely irritated and/or angry with someone all the time before we're ready to admit that, perhaps, our personalities just don't cohere? And I do say us because I'm as guilty of this as anyone else.
It's interesting how I can stand back and look at interpersonal relationship problems now with the realization that 99% of them aren't personal, they're personality. If that makes sense. I couldn't see that before.